Sunday, August 02, 2009

Girls' day out

Yesterday Mark had another base ball game a couple of hours away. Since his brother was in town, I requested to stay at home with the girls so we could go shopping for school supplies and all of the boys could go play base ball. Mark was hesitant, but he finally agreed (he wasn't sure how well he could watch the boys while playing base ball, which is a valid concern).

The girls and I hit OfficeMax, Office Depot, Target, and Walgreens, with a McDonalds run for lunch. We had a great time and got a bunch of stuff on the kids' school supply lists. With three of them in school I need to hit all of the deals I can!

Danielle is super excited about school and when she got up today and put her dress on for church she asked if she was going to school. Then tonight when she was going to bed she asked me how many days until school. Unfortunately for her, she doesn't know the number "16" so she still doesn't know how long until school starts. LOL

It was especially good for me to get to spend some time with Danielle shopping on Saturday. I feel like I am not bonding as well to her as she kind of gets lost in the chaos. Emily has needed so much more attention simply because she is younger, so I'm really trying hard to develop my relationship with Danielle. It took several months for me to really feel bonded to the boys, and I've seen that bonding (on my end and theirs) continue to grow and deepen the longer they've been home. I see the same thing happening with Danielle, but it's hard to be patient and give our relationship time. This is nothing Danielle is doing or not doing; it is simply a matter of trying to develop a relationship with a person you've only known for a couple of months and that you have a hard time communicating with. :) It takes time and effort and a willingness to make connections and build the relationship.


Anonymous said...

Make Danielle a paperchain 16 links long. Then she can tear one off for each day that comes as she gets closer to the first day of school. It doesn't have to be anything fancy! It's fun and kids love it!

Tami said...

You're wise beyond your parenting years, my friend. This is something I had to learn the hard way with Anya. I had a horrible time bonding with her because of a personality conflict. Its nothing she ever did or could have changed. It was totally one-sided and once I realized it, the bonding came much more naturally.
As you know, give it time. It will grow and develop into something AMAZING! The relationship I have with my girls is so different from the boys. Not better or worse, just different. And awesome! :)